In the Philippines, there are so many restrictions imposed on a pregnant woman not just by her OB, but also by her family, colleagues, friends and yes, even strangers.
“Buntis ka, bawal kang lakad nang lakad. Wag ka maglalalabas. Bawal ka nito. Bawal ka nyan.”
As if you’re debilitated, people will (sincerely or not) caution you about almost everything. As their unsolicited advice will sometimes scare the hell out of you rather than encourage you, sometimes, they’re actually doing more harm than good. Hence, many preggies would rather stay home, lay gloriously in their beds and do nothing.
Unless their doctors declare that they have a high-risk pregnancy (forcing some preggies to be on bed rest), I believe that women should remain well-rounded even during pregnancy. The 9 months of gestation should not be spent in anxiety, fear or boredom. Instead, this period should be filled with moments, activities, conversations that will help a woman nourish her body, mind, and soul in preparation for a greater role in life, which is being a mom.
So on my second trimester, when my morning sickness finally left me in peace, I decided to look for activities that will help keep my pregnant body fit and active and at the same time, motivate me in this new phase of my life. One of these activities is the Smart Parenting Baby Shower.
The first part of the event was an informative talk from a power couple offering childbirth classes and doula services, Manny and Betty San Luis of Birthing is a Blessing. My thoughts on healthy pregnancies were confirmed by this couple. According to them, pregnancy is not a sickness. Hence, pregnant women with healthy pregnancies (again, those with complicated pregnancies are an exemption) should not act as if they’re sick. Hearing something positive about pregnancy from pregnancy and childbirth “specialists” is, of course, uplifting for a newbie like me.
They also encouraged us to look at the birthing process as something naturally designed for women. Yes, it is a laborious, painful process, but it’s something that women shouldn’t fear because we are all created for this special purpose.